Should You Tell Your Date You Have Kids?
Most singles are afraid to tell their date they have kids. They worry their date will turn away not wanting to be tied down. It's true that many single men and women don't want the headaches of someone else's kids, but there are special people that love kids rather it's their own or someone else's. That's what you need to emphasize in your profile.
Make sure the person you're matched up with loves and wants kids. You will be looking for that special person which takes longer because you have a special need. Hopefully, you can find someone that doesn't have kids of their own. From my own experience it can end in a disaster, usually after you get married. Now that you've been matched up to this special someone, be totally honest with him about your kids.
Mention their ages, their likes, dislikes and attitudes. It's better to let him go now then later when you have emotional ties. It makes it much harder for both of you. Watch how he acts on your first date and listen to his responses about your kids. Don't spend your entire date talking about your kids. Just briefly mention them to see how he responds.
This meeting is to see if you like each other as there will be follow up dates to learn more about each other. Get to know him well before inviting him to your house or apartment and introducing him to your kids. If this turns into real love he will accept and love your kids too.
If you both have kids, there needs to be a common ground. Most marriages with built in kids are not the Brady Bunch. It takes work and understanding. You must realize the responsibility of a ready made family before you commit yourself to this relationship.
There are marriages like this that have been stone solid for years, but they worked at it. People want to give up too easy, but if you both love each other you will give this relationship a chance to survive and set ground rules for the kids.
So many single parents let their kids run wild not setting rules for them to follow and obey so therefore the kids are controlling the parents. If this happens, your relationship or marriage will not survive. It will not last longer than six months if you're not prepared and your kids are unruly.
So make sure you tell your date you have kids and get everything out in the open. You can have a great life together with trust and understanding and both of you can watch your kids grow up, get married and have kids of their own.
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