How Do You Recognize Mr Right?

Many of us have been socialized to believe that there is a Mr. Right out there. A man who would be just right for us and with whom we would fit together like 2 pieces from a puzzle but would you really recognize Mr. Right if he walked in through the door right now? Beyond the emotional connection or jolt that you expect to feel instantaneously... do you have a way of recognizing Mr. Right? Or has Mr. Right walked right past you because the emotional connection did not kick in instantaneously and you had no other way of identifying him? How can you be better equipped to identify Mr. Right?

1. What should he look like? Do you know what your Mr. Right should look like? Should your Mr. Right be tall or short or of medium height... or don't you care about height? Do you care if he is a little overweight or should he be skinny or of average build? Should he wear his hair long or short? Would a bald man ring your emotional bell? What about tattoos and piercings... what is acceptable to you? Take a note pad and write down all that you expect Mr. Right to look like from head to toe. As you write, it will become clear to you what your heart desires him to look like. If you just think without writing then you will only have a vague impression of what you expect him to look like and so you will not be sure if it's him... when he does finally show up in your life. What physical attributes are non-negotiable with you? What must he have in order for him to be Mr. Right for you?

2. What should he be doing with his life? This is a biggy with many women who want a man who can at least carry his monetary weight in the relationship or who can conversely take care of you and the family that you expect to have. Some women are only able to love and respect men who dominate their field of expertise while others don't care too much about what he does as long as he is gainfully employed. What about in his free time... must he be involved in charity work or in sports or in other activities beyond the office? What should your Mr. Right be doing in his career as well as in his free time? Again it is important that you write this down as it will help you focus on what it is that you need and cannot live without in your man.

3. How should he make you feel? Yes, many of us imagine that we want him to make our knees weak and our stomachs queasy... but is that really realistic? What kinds of things must he do in order to be your Mr. Right? How can you begin to prepare yourself so that you can quickly teach him how you want to be treated? The romance novels were wrong... Mr. Right does not instinctively know how to treat you like a queen. You must teach him by your actions and your words but before you do that you must define for yourself what it is that you want him to do.

4. What should his lifestyle be like? We all have some 'must haves 'in the people that we want around us. Does Mr. Right have to be physically active or can you tolerate a dormant couch potato? Do you mind if he takes the occasional drink or gets regularly drunk or must he be a teetotaler? Should faith in God be an integral part of his life or should he just have decent morals? Search your heart and write down exactly what Mr. Right should and should not be involved in.

If you are now clear on what your Mr. Right must be then you will be able to identify him when he comes into your life. Sometimes Mr. Right maybe sitting right next to you but you are blinded by your vague perceptions of what it is that you really want. Having done your list in the 4 key areas... is Mr. Right already in your life and you didn't know it?

On your search for Mr. Right I recommend these 4 how-to tips but if you want a detailed and systematic guide to help you identify Mr. Right then I would highly recommend this guide to attracting your ideal man and relationship.

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