Love Is a Delicate Dance

Love is simple and complex, joyful and painful, uplifting and devastating, and wonderful. When we love another and feel loved in return, whether that person is our most intimate partner, a parent, child, friend or acquaintance, life feels wonderful. When we feel love for another and do not feel loved in return, life can become an unpleasant drudgery. However, relationships, especially long-term intimate bonds, are not usually so clearly delineated.

When two people meet and feel those romantic sparks flying, loving feelings emerge. If the relationship continues for a while, the two may "fall in love." As difficult as it may be for many of us to find a partner with whom to share our love, falling in love is merely the tip of the iceberg, the very beginning. How we feel in those early stages is probably not the way we are going to feel over time.

At first, the beloved appears to be perfect, the materialization of our dreams, the answer to our prayers, and the solution to our problems. However, that stage does not usually last very long. Once we have indulged in those warm and fuzzy feelings for a while, it can become similar to overeating our favorite dessert. Sooner or later we feel satiated and our interest, desire and excitement wanes.

Now we are able to see the beloved partner in a new light. As we express our needs and our partner does the same, we may discover some huge discrepancies. What we thought, or wanted to believe, about our partner turns out to not quite be the way it is. And what our partner expects from us may be different from what we are able to give.

We have been dancing since we met but the steps of the dance continually change. At first we may both be drawn toward each other and seem to dance in a smooth and rhythmical patterns. But soon the steps change. One of us seems to be dancing backwards, leaning or moving away. The other seems to be pushing toward, leaning on, grasping and clinging. But it doesn't even remain that way. The emotions of the pursuer may be so disturbing that he or she begins to back away and sulk. And then, the one who was moving away and creating distance begins to move forward and seek connection again.

This dance of love happens with movement and activity as well as with words and subtle body language. The Delicate Dance of Love is an art form which develops between any two people who are close and bonded. To act as the artistic creator rather than merely being at the effect of the drama, requires vigilant attention, listening to the words, observing the behavior and body language of oneself and the other person, and then acting in ways to deliberately enhance the loving connection.

Remember, love is a delicate dance. Pushing or pulling, grasping or backing away, do not lead to smooth and rhythmical couple dancing. Discover the art of loving and the joy of moving through life together as a smooth and rhythmical unit.

Dr. Erica Goodstone, a Spiritual Relationship Healing Expert, has helped thousands of men, women, and couples to heal through love. She helps them to develop greater awareness of the issues in their relationships, past, present and even future, to overcome and alleviate stresses and discords, and to revitalize their relationships and their own mind-body-spirit connection. Her Complete Relationship System, http://budurl.com/LoveSystemPreview, offers a comprehensive program to heal all of your relationships. Explore the delicate dance of love with your partner or learn what it will take for you to find a loving partner and begin to dance. Find out more in this beautiful, simple Kindle book http://budurl.com/DelicateDance

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