How to Accept Good Love Advice and Ignore the Bad

It is very common for our friends and family to offer us love advice, even when it's not needed. General advice given may not work for you and your partner. It is always a courteous gesture to at least listen to what someone has to say. There may be parts in their advice that do pertain to your specific relationship that can help strengthen it. You will find that some advice offered will be completely useless. It is up to you to figure out what advice to take and what to leave alone.

Constructive advice can be very beneficial. It may just give you ideas to help restructure a problem or setback. Sometimes the advice offered can help you to open up more to your partner. Communication and trust are the hardest elements to keep healthy in a relationship. It's common to see a couple get stuck at these points. Friends and family may offer suggestions or examples from their own lives that can help your relationship. In some cases, the advice of a relationship therapist may be needed. A therapist's approach may seem a little harsh but their suggestions and advice are often proven methods that have worked for many couples.

The best advice is likely to come from someone that has had a successful and long lasting relationship. Those that are unsuccessful in relationships may appear to have good advice, but if their own advice hasn't worked for them it is likely not to work for you either. Be careful with whose advice you do take. Taking the wrong advice can leave you lonely and back at the drawing board completely. A suggestion is to listen to more than one person's advice that has had a successful relationship and use the similarities in them to come to your own conclusion on what to do.

Asking for advice and being offered advice are two different things. When you ask for advice it is important to be willing to take in and listen to what is being said. It may not always be what you want to hear. That is part of life though; everything isn't always going to be what we want it to be. A person may suggest that you end a relationship even though you try to tell yourself that you're happy. It really may be the right advice. It's not always the answer though. Sometimes a healthy conversation with our partners can put us back on the right path to move forward and past a problem. Friends and family always have your best interest in mind. Some may seem harsh and it may appear that they don't want to see the relationship succeed but the truth is that they just want to see you happy. Always be willing to accept good and bad advice, because there will always be advice that doesn't work or seems unreasonable. When taking advice from someone, put your own thoughts into it to make it more pertinent to your specific relationship

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